You can utilize many different strategies when trying to get your ex back after a breakup.  My favorite is using text messages.  It always works really well for me whenever I do it a certain way.  Visit for the method I use.

Man And Woman With Backs Turned Illustration
"Don't talk to me!"  ---- "Fine! That won't be a problem!"

What I want to touch on today is the idea of no contact versus limited contact.  Is one better than the other?  Both good?  Both bad?

Refer to any good get your ex back guide, and you’ll find cutting off contact with your ex is one of the fundamental principles of eventually getting them back.  There’s a lot of reasons it works so well and a lot of psychology behind it, but I’m not going to get into the theory right now.

I’ve always found completely cutting off contact with your ex immediately following a breakup is a really good strategy.  I usually try to do it for at least a couple of weeks.  It gives me time to get my emotions under control, and keeps me from doing stupid stuff.  Drunk texters raise your hand! *lol*

The best length of time to cut off contact will always remain up for debate.  Do you do it a few days?  A few weeks?  An entire month?  2 months?  Every breakup is different, but I think it’s really important to give your ex time to miss you, especially if you hope to repair the relationship.

It’s after the initial “no contact” period, where things get a little tricky.  At that point what do you do?  Do you go straight into full contact?  Do you limit your contact?

Here’s what works best for me...

After a period of no contact, I usually go into a phase of “limited contact” until I can tell my ex and I are on good terms again.  By “good terms”, I mean our emotions are in check.  We can communicate without arguing and can actually stand each other for a few minutes.  That sort of thing.

During the limited contact phase, I try to stick to a few rules:

I respond to communication, but I don’t initiate it. So instead of ignoring texts from my ex like I do during the no contact phase, I will respond, but I won’t initiate the conversation.

I keep things light and fun. No texting about deep relationship issues.

I keep things brief. No long text exchanges that go on and on for hours. A response here and there and then quiet the rest of the day.

I don’t respond right away. When my ex contacts me, I give it an hour or two before responding.  I want them to think I’m busy and to wonder about what I’m doing.  The more I occupy their mind and the more they think about me, the better chance I have of winning them back.

I always try to end the conversation first. This keeps me in control of the situation. Something as simple as, “Ok, I gotta get going now” works just fine.

I always try to end the conversation on a high note. So if I’m talking to my ex and we’re having a really fun conversation, I’ll try to end the conversation right there. Why?  Because when I want my ex back, I want them to associate positive feelings with me every time they interact with me.  Even though the conversation is going great, if you talk too long, you risk having it turn stale or boring, and then your ex remembers those negative feelings instead of thinking to themselves, “OMG.  That made me laugh!  I miss that.  I can’t wait to talk to him/her again.”  Make sense?

So when it comes to no contact versus limited contact, a combination of the two works best for me.  In some instances, you’ll be forced to use only limited contact.  For example, if you work with your ex or if you and your ex have children together, then it’s pretty much impossible to have full no contact.  In those situations, just try to minimize your contact at first as much as possible.


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A Friend Zone Text ConversationSo you've gone and done it. You got too informal with her and took yourself right out of the game. You started hearing words like "brother" and "bestie", and now you realize you're no longer a legitimate contender to date the woman you really want.

You're in the friend zone.

How did you get here? And better yet, what's the best way to get out of the friend zone with a girl?

Well, there are a number of approaches you can take if you find yourself trapped in the dreaded and seemingly inescapable friend zone. I'll tell you right now: redefining the nature of your relationship with that special someone isn't easy, but it’s not impossible either. The “resetting impression” technique from the Girlfriend Activation System program is probably my favorite technique for getting out of the friend zone with a girl, so check that out when you can.

You have to slowly integrate clear and well-defined boundaries, and you have to somehow get the girl in question to start viewing you in a completely different light. It's a long, hard road back up the mountain, but if you think it's worth the climb, then let's discuss a few of the ways you can free yourself from the confines of the friend zone.

1. Don't Get Desperate

When you’re attracted to a woman, you may feel like you want something more, but you may also feel helpless to change the dynamics of the current situation. This can lead to a desperate need to be around her in whatever capacity, which only solidifies the way she presently views you: as a friend.

So keep your head on straight, and retain your self-confidence. Don’t get desperate. Doing so makes you needy.

Recognize you don't just want this girl as a friend, and commit yourself to the idea of trying to achieve something else. Understand you may lose her completely in the end, but resign yourself to this, and be assured it's a worthwhile endeavor. You have to be willing to risk losing the friendship if you want to be something more.

Don't follow her around like a puppy dog. Confidence and even a touch of aloofness can go a long way towards changing her perception of you as a man.

2. Withdraw And Use The Time For Yourself

What do I mean by "withdraw"? Well, I don't mean you should stop responding to her texts or calls, but I do mean you shouldn't be at her beck and call 24 hours a day. You should lose the urgency to be around her, and you shouldn’t be in constant contact with her all day, every day.

Don't pick up the phone immediately. Don't instantly respond to text messages. Live your own life.

As you withdraw, use your free time to improve yourself. Go to the gym, read a book, learn a language, pursue your personal passions. A man with drive and ambition is incredibly attractive to any woman.

3. Flirt

Yeah, this is going to be tough. You have to redefine the entire nature of your relationship if you want to get out of her friend zone. This means you have to make your intentions more clear.

A great way to do this is to inject some light flirtation into your regular interactions. Don't come on too strong at first. It's important to introduce the changes slowly, so you don't scare her off and send her running for the hills. You'll want to ease her into the idea of a more intimate relationship.

Start with flirting. Comment on her appearance, comment on how attractive she is, or make a joke with some playful, sexual undertones. She'll take the hint, eventually. Flirting is also a great way to gauge her reaction if you’re unsure how she really feels about you, and, when done right, one of the best ways to get out of the friend zone with a girl you really like.